Marriage is one of the greatest blessings from Allah — a sacred bond built on love, mercy, and tranquility. But it’s also one of Shaytan’s biggest targets. He knows that when a marriage falls apart, it doesn’t just break two people — it shatters families, weakens the ummah, and leaves generations of emotional scars.
When we face struggles — financial hardships, misunderstandings, emotional distance — it’s easy to believe the worst about our spouse. Fear creeps in, whispering doubts into our hearts. And before we know it, that fear becomes a wall that keeps us stuck in our problems.
The truth is, the fear itself isn’t the problem — it’s the block that prevents us from solving the real issues. And if we let that fear control us, we end up chained to assumptions and pain instead of facing the truth head-on.
My Story: How Fear Almost Broke My Marriage
Recently, my husband and I hit a rough patch. We had a financial misunderstanding, and though we’re usually open to talking things out, life got in the way. We were both too busy, too tired, too distracted to make time for each other.
The silence grew into hurt. The hurt grew into resentment.
I started believing he didn’t care. My mind spiraled with assumptions:
“What if he doesn’t love me anymore? What if he’s given up on us? What if he secretly blames me for our financial struggles?”
The fear of abandonment, of being unlovable, took over. Shaytan latched onto those insecurities, fueling them like fire. I felt hopeless and defeated — paralyzed by a pain that wasn’t even based on the truth.
But last night, I decided enough was enough.
I invited him to join me for a late-night laundry trip after Taraweeh prayers. As we waited for the laundry to finish, I gathered all my courage and finally spoke to him about everything on my heart.
You know what?
He wasn’t ignoring me. He wasn’t giving up. He had a plan — a real, thoughtful plan for our future. I was gobsmacked. Alhamdulillah, I felt so relieved. But it made me realize how close we were to letting fear and Shaytan’s whispers tear us apart — all because I didn’t ask him sooner.
👉 “And do not obey the one whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance, who follows his desire, and whose affair is ever [in] neglect.” (Quran, 18:28)
The Danger of Assumptions in Marriage
When you’re in doubt — ask.
Don’t let assumptions take root. Shaytan loves assumptions because they’re an easy way to create distance between you and your spouse. He plants seeds of doubt, making you question your husband’s love, his intentions, and his loyalty.
I realized that I didn’t even know his side of the story. My fear made me think the worst. I built a whole heartbreaking narrative in my head — and none of it was real.
“Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales.” (Sahih al-Bukhari 6066)
Had I continued assuming the worst, I would have let Shaytan win. He wants us to believe lies — that our husbands don’t care, that they’re trying to hurt us, that they only see us as a burden.
My husband later told me he hears the same whispers too:
“She doesn’t love you. She’s using you. She doesn’t respect you.”
SubhanAllah. It’s not just wives who get targeted — husbands do too.
We both realized something powerful: those whispers felt like they disappeared during Ramadan. It felt like a heavy weight was lifted off our chests.
👉 “Indeed, Shaytan is an enemy to you; so take him as an enemy.” (Quran, 35:6)
Shaytan’s Mission: To Destroy Marriages
There’s a chilling hadith that always sticks with me:
“Iblis places his throne upon water, then he sends detachments (for creating mischief); the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: ‘I did so and so.’ Iblis says: ‘You have done nothing.’ Then one among them comes and says: ‘I did not leave him until I separated him from his wife.’ Iblis brings him near to him and says: ‘You have done well.’”
(Sahih Muslim 2813a)
Why does Iblis value this so much?
Because when marriages crumble, the foundation of the ummah weakens. Children grow up in broken homes, carrying insecurities and trust issues into their own marriages. Families drift apart. The unity of the Muslim community — the very backbone of a strong ummah — starts to crack.
That’s what Shaytan wants.
👉 “And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts.” (Quran, 30:21)
Marriage is meant to be a source of peace, love, and mercy. Don’t let Shaytan take that away from you.
5 Ways to Protect Your Marriage from Fear and Shaytan
1. Communicate, even when it’s hard
Don’t wait for the “right time.” Sometimes the right time never comes. Make time for each other — even during mundane tasks like laundry.
2. Clarify, don’t assume
When doubts creep in, ask your spouse directly. Don’t let your mind create false narratives.
3. Remember, Shaytan hates your marriage
Those whispers telling you your spouse doesn’t love you? They’re not from you. They’re from Shaytan. Recognize them — and reject them.
4. Make dua for your spouse
Ask Allah to guide and protect both of you. There’s nothing more powerful than dua.
👉 “Our Lord, grant us from among our spouses and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” (Quran, 25:74)
5. Seek barakah in your marriage
Pray together. Build habits that strengthen your faith as a couple — whether it’s attending Taraweeh, doing acts of sadaqah, or reading the Quran together.
The Strength of a United Ummah Starts with Strong Marriages
Fear is a powerful weapon — but only if we let it control us. When we face our fears, we realize they’re nothing more than illusions meant to hold us back.
Shaytan wants our marriages to fail because he knows a broken home leads to a broken ummah.
Let’s fight back.
May Allah protect our marriages, fill our homes with love and barakah, and grant us the strength to overcome fear and Shaytan’s whispers. Ameen.
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