February 17, 2025
Marriage
The Timeless Love of Khadijah and Rasulullah: A Marriage Built on Faith and Sacrifice
Bismillah بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ
Ya Allah, Make Me Grateful in My Marriage
Ya Allah, help me be the most grateful person I know. You know I’m sincere. You know I’m trying my hardest. You know I’m doing this solely for Your sake, Ya Allah. And You know these things are not easy. This journey will test my patience, my sincerity, and every fiber of my being.
Ya Rabbi, please don’t let me go astray. All I want is to return back to You safe and sound in Jannatul Firdaus, Ya Rabbi. I need You. Please help me.
Struggles in Marriage: You’re Not Alone
Sometimes, at times like these, I can’t help but remind myself that I’m doing all this for His sake.
Yesterday, I went to my weekly usrah gathering, and a bunch of us ladies shared our ups and downs in life. The theme this time was struggles in marriage. I can’t tell you how relieved I am to know that I’m not alone in battling these worldly battles. The sleepless nights, the heartaches, the clash in ideologies—you would think marriage would give you that peace and comfort that a good garment provides, but the truth is, nothing in this world is perfect, not even your spouse.
Marriage in Islam is a Test
Marriage is not just about love and companionship. It is a test. A test of patience, a test of character, a test of faith. Allah reminds us in the Quran:
“And We have made some of you as a trial for others: will you have patience? And your Lord is All-Seeing.”
(Surah Al-Furqan 25:20)
Every marriage has its challenges, and every couple goes through their own unique struggles. But knowing that other sisters are facing similar hardships brings a sense of comfort.
The Story of Rasulullah’s Deepest Grief: The Year of Sorrow
At our usrah, we talked about Isra’ and Mi’raj—the incredible journey that Allah gifted Rasulullah (ﷺ) to lighten his grief. He had just endured the most heartbreaking year of his life, known as the Year of Sorrow. He had lost two of his greatest loves:
- Khadijah (RA), his most beloved wife, who supported him in every way.
- Abu Talib, his uncle, who protected him but sadly never embraced Islam.
Rasulullah (ﷺ) once said about Khadijah:
“She believed in me when the people disbelieved. She comforted me when they shunned me. She supported me with her wealth when others deprived me. And Allah granted me children through her, and not through any other wife.”
(Musnad Ahmad, 24864)
Can you imagine the depth of his love for her? His grief was so profound that Allah Himself intervened by giving him the Isra’ and Mi’raj, a journey to remind him that His Lord was always with him.
Khadijah’s Love: A Benchmark for Every Marriage
When I reflect on this hadith, I understand how deeply a human can love another to the point where grief consumes them.
I wish for the same kind of love with my husband, insyaAllah. I have always looked up to Khadijah (RA) and Rasulullah (ﷺ) as the ultimate example of an Islamic marriage. Their love wasn’t based on wealth, looks, or status. It was built on faith, trust, and unwavering support.
The Perfect Garment for Each Other
Allah says in the Quran:
“They are your garments, and you are their garments.”
(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:187)
A garment is meant to:
✔ Cover you – Protect your flaws and shortcomings.
✔ Provide warmth – Give you comfort and emotional security.
✔ Be close to you – Stay intimately connected to you.
This was exactly the relationship between Khadijah and Rasulullah (ﷺ). They completed each other perfectly.
How Khadijah (RA) Supported Rasulullah (ﷺ)
Khadijah (RA) gave everything to support Rasulullah (ﷺ):
1. Emotional Support
When he came back trembling after his first encounter with Angel Jibril, it was Khadijah (RA) who wrapped him in a blanket and comforted him.
“She took me to her cousin Waraqah ibn Nawfal, and he confirmed that I was chosen as a Prophet.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari, 4953)
She was his safe place when he felt lost and afraid.
2. Financial Support
She was a wealthy businesswoman, yet she never hesitated to spend her money to support his dawah. She ensured that Islam spread beyond the borders of Makkah. She supported him financially because firstly she is able to and most importantly she shares the same vision as him, which is to uphold Islam and spread it to the whole world.
“The best charity is that given when one is in difficulty.”
(Sahih al-Bukhari, 1411)
She gave everything selflessly, expecting nothing in return because only Allah can reward her for her sacrifices in the path of dawah. She was very clear in her goal and vision in life. It was all for Allah and the spread of truth. Even the Prophet SAW did not consume wealth for his own personal gain, instead it was all for Islam.
3. Trust and Belief
While others doubted him, she was the first to say:
“I believe in you.”
She saw in him what no one else did. She didn’t marry him for his status or wealth. She married him because of his flawless character.
Modern Marriages: What We Can Learn from Khadijah (RA) and Rasulullah (ﷺ)
Today, many marriages revolve around “What am I getting?” rather than “What am I giving?”
Khadijah (RA) gave more than she received, and yet, she was honored by Allah and His Messenger. Even Aisha (RA), despite never meeting Khadijah, felt jealous of her because of how much Rasulullah (ﷺ) loved her.
So what can we learn from their marriage?
✔ Focus on character – Not money, looks, or status.
✔ Support each other in hardships – Not just in good times.
✔ Give more than you take – Love is about selflessness.
Allah promises:
“The most perfect believers in faith are those best in character, and the best among you are those who are best to their wives.”
(Sunan At-Tirmidhi, 1162)
A Dua for Righteous Spouses
Ya Allah, grant us righteous spouses who will be our garments in this dunya and our partners in Jannah, just like how our prophet PBUH were to his wives.
Ya Allah, help us be like Khadijah, supporting our spouses for Your sake.
Ya Allah, make our marriages a means of drawing closer to You.
Ameen.
Final Thoughts: Keep Striving for a Blessed Marriage
Ya Allah, help me be the most grateful person I know. You know I’m sincere. You know I’m trying my hardest. You know I’m doing this solely for Your sake. You know these things are not easy.
It will test my patience, my sincerity, and every fiber of my being.
Ya Rabbi, please don’t let me go astray. All I want is to return back to You safe and sound in Jannatul Firdaus, Ya Rabbi.
I need You. Please help me.
Ameen.
Till next time, love and salam.
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