THE KHALIFAH DIARIES Be The Best Muslimah For Allah SWT

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ

No matter how much we try, we can never repay all the sacrifices our parents have made for us growing up. So, the best we can do for them is to at least try our best to make them happy as long as they’re still alive.

There are many ayats in the Quran where Allah continually asks us to respect and love our parents at the highest level. Their status in Allah’s ranking is elevated to the utmost position. 

Prophet Muhammad SAW said: “The Lord’s pleasure is in the parent’s pleasure, and the Lord’s anger is in the parent’s anger.” – [Tirmidhi]

This means that if you anger your parents in ANY way, Allah will be angry at you.

That is super scary! 

But if your parents are pleased, rest assured that Allah SWT is also pleased with you. In sha Allah. It sounds simple but may not be the easiest thing to do in the world. 😉

So, here are 100 suggestions on simple – yet powerful – ways to love and respect your parents.

All the best! 🙂

1. Speak to them in a loving tone.
2. Never raise your voice at them.
3. Call or visit them often to check in on them.
4. Plan a vacation for them.
5. Make du’a for their health and well-being.
6. Support them financially.
7. Spend time with them regularly on the weekends.
8. Fulfill their requests and wishes.
9. When in disagreement, compromise and be sensible.
10. Give them gifts that they love.
11. Cook for them.
12. Control yourself when in anger.
13. Clean their home.
14. Bring your kids to visit them often.
15. Listen to their worries and complaints.
16. Accompany them when they are sick.
17. Read the Quran for them.
18. Organize their home.
19. Take them on family trips.
20. Buy new clothes for them.
21. Celebrate occasions together.
22. Prioritise their wishes.
23. Forgive all their mistakes.
24. Never hold grudges against them.
25. Provide for them.
26. Meet all their needs.
27. Buy them a new Quran.
28. Refurbish or renovate their home.
29. Celebrate their birthdays no matter how old they are.
30. Provide a comfortable home for them.
31. Go to Islamic classes with them.
32. Let them spend more time with your kids.
33. Get their opinions on certain issues.
34. Don’t do anything they dislike.
35. Find out their secret desires and fulfill them.
36. Show them how much they mean to you.
37. Let go of past hurt or traumas they’ve done to you.
38. Make them happy.
39. Make du’a for their happiness in dunya and akhirah.
40. Make du’a they get into Jannatul Firdaus together.
41. Make du’a they never get into hellfire ever.
42. Remind them what amazing parents they were and still are.
43. Listen to their life stories.
44. Make jokes and laugh together.
45. Control yourself when they seem annoying.
46. Give them what they love.
47. Allow them to express their dislikes.
48. Help them make the right decisions if they need it.
49. Update them on your current life.
50. Go back to old memories of fun times together.
51. Share the latest Hadith or Islamic knowledge you learned.
52. Assist them in running their errands.
53. Take them to their doctor’s appointment.
54. Take them to the barber or salon for a haircut.
55. Invite or remind them to get closer to Allah.
56. If they’re not yet Muslims, make du’a Allah gives them guidance soon.
57. Share and celebrate with them your accomplishments.
58. Never hurt them.
59. Never say harsh things to them.
60. Be humble and swallow your pride with them.
61. Give them what they deserve.
62. Tell them ‘I love you’ always.
63. Go out of your way to meet their needs.
64. Take interest in their new hobbies.
65. Give the same respect and love to their friends.
66. Help them be better Muslims.
67. Be gentle and kind to them.
68. Hold them when they walk.
69. Hug and kiss them often.
70. Look into their eyes when they talk.
71. Declutter their home.
72. Help them solve their problems if they have any.
73. Teach your children how to respect and love your parents.
74. Treat them to a nice restaurant.
75. Give them a love letter on special occasions.
76. Help them to stay in touch with their friends.
77. Show them that you care about them.
78. Bring flowers for your mother.
79. Watch their favourite shows together.
80. Take them on short trips to get out of the house sometimes.
81. Let the family and kids play board games with them.
82. Read the Quran together.
83. Have a long fulfilling conversation about random things.
84. Go through old family albums and remember the moments together.
85. Give them the benefit of the doubt in a misunderstanding.
86. Take good care of them when they reach old age.
87. Pay off their debt if they have any.
88. Show them that you use the things they give you.
89. Avoid triggering their anger.
90. Cook nice food for them.
91. Share whatever you are excited about for the day.
92. Never let them feel lonely or left out.
93. Take in their advice and cherish their opinions.
94. Make sure their health is well taken care of.
95. Share with them about the latest book that you are reading.
96. Give charity on their behalf.
97. Thank them often for all the things they’ve sacrificed for you your whole life.
98. Cover your negative emotions in front of them.
99. Remind them to look for you in Jannatul Firdaus (The Highest Heaven).
100. Let go of any ill feelings you might have about them in the past.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.” – [Quran 17:24]

Whenever I think about my parents, it saddens me because there were so many things that I’ve done that caused them much pain and hurt. Whether intentionally or otherwise, they never showed their hurt.

Instead, they continue to show unconditional love and kindness to me and all my siblings. I bet your parents are the same.

So from today onwards, let’s try to be better sons and daughters to them.

Any good from this article is from Allah and any evil is from the shaytaan and me. May Allah forgive our shortcomings in practicing His deen.

Wa billahi tawfeeq wa hidayah

(All successes come from Allah and His guidance).